If you’re a struggling mama, a new mama, or a soon-to-be mama, a never-ending, or a super mama, hippie mama, corporate mama, stay-at-home mama, unschooling, homeschooling, public schooling, private schooling mama…this list may be for you.
1. Breastfeeding is beautiful and natural. Okay, this ends up being mostly true, but it’s starts out blisters, crying (mama from pain), and ends in biting and more crying- ’cause mom doesn’t want her baby to grow up. Somehow your child will live- even on formula *gasp*.
2. Stay-at-home moms don’t do much. Excuse me? They have time to do everything perfectly that working moms never can. Being a SAHM is easier. For me, I think my mind and emotions would rather I get a job.
3. Motherhood comes naturally. Disagree. Selfishness comes naturally. Motherhood is a life of service.
4. It gets easier. So far, no. The change of physical demands and no sleep to bra shopping and hormones- ’nuff said. I have heard enough from mom’s with adult children to know that season has it’s struggles as well. Like I said- life time service.
5. If you read a bunch of parenting books, you’ll have a good idea of what to expect and how to deal with it. Don’t worry the formula works for everyone…said no mother ever!
6. You have to be able to juggle house, schedules, and bake cookies all the time. Give yourselves a break. We mamas can seldom muster up the will and motivation for for anything other than keeping the young alive. It’s okay. If you’re a ball of energy, that’s awesome. If you’re not, don’t fall into the trap of looking around you. Assume you’re friend’s Instagram picture of perfection was the only moment of peace that day held, and she documented it. Assume that all the Pinterest pins are looking more like the Pinterest Fail blog. Just love your babes and do lots of deep breathing and praying. You’ll make it to the next stage.
7. Your friends are sweeter, more peaceful, and never complain about anything. They have it all figured out. They are better than you. Yeah right. They are likely struggling just as much- maybe more. Have honest conversations and be a friend who understands. We are all figuring things out as we go. YOU”RE NOT ALONE! Surround yourself with godly women who you can relate to.
8. If you don’t feed your child organic from scratch food, on a plate that’s BPA-Free in a chair you bought at the thrift store and painted with chemical-free paint, while strumming your guitar to a song you wrote especially for him– he’ll grow up hating you and thinking that you neglected him. Give that kid some chicken McNuggets and let him play in the ball pit of death germs. He’ll love you more. Just kidding. Do what ever you want, but remember that he only wants you. Not your food or your up-cycles. Just your presence and love.
9. If you’re a single mom you have failed. You don’t see your kids enough and they will turn out horrible. Don’t believe that for a second. You can do it, and you will realize one day how amazing you are for raising a child with no help or relief from a spouse. I think single moms are amazing! God will get you through to your next season.
Moms! You are important. What you do everyday is doing something. Every stage of motherhood you look back on and see the growth in your person, your relationship to the Lord. Every stage is teaching us something. Don’t believe lies. You are a mother. You are amazing. You may not feel amazing, look amazing, or act amazing (mommy-ka-boom!), but if you love your children they will know.
Sometimes a, “Mom, MOM, MOMMY! I love you.” Is enough to remind us, right?
Do not grow weary in doing good. The Lord provides the strength you need. Just be the mom He wants you to be, not the one you think you should be.