My only Tidbit is to celebrate each child you have for what they are. Don’t try to put them in a box based on previous children or what your standards are. Every child is different because God made them that way. They think differently, behave differently and see the world differently. This is a lesson I am learning more and more as my kids get older. I love how creative each of my children are, in such diverse ways.
Isa is a thinker. Always questioning the ways of the world. Sometimes this can get her in trouble. I always have to remember that she just thinks that way. It would do her no good if I just told her, “because I said” all the time. She truly has a desire for the real reasons and the truth in everything.
Andre is mechanical. I have to catch myself from getting upset with him as he takes apart the fourth flashlight of the month and looses some parts. If I let him explore he will some day be able to fix things instead of disassemble them. If I don’t allow him the freedom to discover, he will become discouraged and suppress a curiosity and gift that has been given to him by God.
Olivia…what can I say? She has got to be into the most trouble of any of the children. It’s not as though she is having a mean or naughty spirit when she rubs lotion all over her doll, or washes her hair will hand sanitizer, or grates butter on the cheese grater. This kid want to be a mama. Always imitating what she sees in her own interpretation. I could discipline her for every small thing she does, but what good would it do? Create a tension, discourage what will some day be helpful acts ( like when she trys to empty her little potty into the big potty). I see that given a little more coordination she’s well on her way to taking care of herself. Independence.
Josie we are still trying to fully predict. I know for sure she’s got a fire in her that is really and truly unstoppable. When she wants something…watch out. Should I discipline that out of her? Certainly not. Every house has boundaries, but if I try to change what God has created it will not have a good end. She’s going to need that fire for her life ahead. My only job is to mold and direct, not to break or discourage.
So, pray over and about your children. Take this ministry of raising them seriously. Think about what it means to raise a child in a Godly fashion. Does God strike us with evey wrong move we make, or does he gently and lovingly exort us? Love them above all. Respect them as people. Guide them as children of God, precious in his sight.